Dear Esther,
Thank you for your beautiful message every month. I really enjoy your words of wisdom. You answer the questions perfectly and I see you are working for the Lord. Well done Sister.
My question? I have been struggling with my marriage. I have been married for 12 years and I am not happy. My husband is a good man, I love him dearly, but I am not "in love" anymore. We have a child together and he is the best father. He is a very quiet man and rarely wants to go out or have fun. He never hugs me or tells me he loves me, but I know he does. I feel that our marriage is slowly falling apart. I don't believe in divorce, but I can't live like this anymore. I want a life of passion, excitement, romance... My life is so sad and boring. Any advice?
Sincerely, Sad Wife
Dear Sad Wife,
I really appreciate your beautiful words of encouragement and gratitude.
May all the praises be to the glory of God and His son Jesus.
Dear lady, deep down in my heart I ask God to transform your sad life into a joyful life with your precious child and the husband you dearly love. God loves you. He is exclusively interested in your happiness, as if there was no other person in the universe waiting for His comfort too. "So do not fear, I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10.
In your journey in this world you are never alone. I hope you feel that God is beside you all the time. He wishes for you to feel His presence in your life. God made man and a woman to be in constant communication with Him. Please, read the two first chapters of Genesis in the Bible.
I love gardening! Let's compare marriage with a garden. In order for your garden to look beautiful and attractive, you must carefully put fertilizer, water, prune, remove weeds and thorns.
To keep your marriage healthy and happy, you must cultivate: praise each other, maintain good dialogue and communication, have meals together, laugh together. Your home should be the most attractive place in the world for your family. Do not forget: "The family that prays together stays together." Your feelings could be a temporary phase. Do not allow such confused thoughts to disturb you. Remember your marriage vows: "For better, for worse..."
My suggestion is for you to take a time alone with God, open your heart to Him. He is your best friend, trust Him. Ask God how you could restore your love and romance with your husband. Do not allow your love to die for a husband that is a good man and is a good father for your child. You also stated that you do not believe in divorce. That's good, because divorce can cause permanent distress in the lives of children. They can carry over into children's adult lives and cause significant emotional trauma for children and adolescents. If you let God direct your life and you home, you will be blessed with: love, peace, harmony, and happiness.
Sincerely,
Esther