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Question to Esther | Confused Parents

Dear Esther,

My daughter has been dating a young man who my husband and I absolutely adore. My daughter asked me if he could move in with us because his parents are moving to Idaho. He is only 19 years old and cannot afford to live on his own. He is the sweetest young man, but as a Christian Mother, I am a little nervous to say yes. I do not believe a dating couple should live in the same home without being married. My husband thinks it's no big deal, but said I am the final decision maker on this matter. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Signed: Nervous Mother

Dear Nervous Mother,

I admire your Christian attitude by considering assistance to someone in need, especially for a young man that you and your family already know. Above all, at his age he still needs guidance from grown adults to provide him with emotional and moral support. As Christians, it is our obligation to help one another. In the near future you may look back and see the difference that you and your family made in someone's life! Just as the well known Proverb: Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Hospitality is a beautiful quality that every Christian should possess. The Bible has many references regarding hospitality. "Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality." Romans 12:13. "Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by doing so, some people have entertained Angels without knowing it." Hebrews 13:2.

Just think, once this young man starts living in your home, you will become a mother to him and in the immediate future, he may become your son in law. Be prudent!!! In the process of receiving him in your house, it's important for you to sit with him, your daughter, and your husband and have an official meeting and understanding between everyone. Set the house rules and end the meeting with a prayer. With God all things are possible and honorable.

You and your husband should keep in mind that your daily life will become a mirror and reflect a relevant example on how this young man should treat your daughter if/when they get married. Allow the fragrance of your Christian home to touch this young man's life. Let him feel the grace, peace, and harmony in a home that serves the Lord. This is a good time for your daughter and her boyfriend to learn and practice some beautiful attributes necessary for a young couple to exercise, like: responsibility, loyalty, honesty, respect, love, and above all obey God's Law.

With my sincere prayer and wishes of happiness to your family, and for the future couple to be!

God bless,


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